You know who you are.
But does anyone else?
Being a mom has so many incredible, wonderful, joy-filled moments, but it can also be incredibly hard and very, very lonely.
There are days, sometimes weeks or months when it feels like all you do is pour yourself into the lives of your husband and kids. When you’ve been up so often at night “Shh-shush”-ing the baby, rubbing a sick child’s back, re-lining wet beds all by yourself…
…the times when you’ve broken up sharp-tongued screaming matches, or made a great dinner only to have everyone call it “gross” and demand baked dino nuggets instead…
…times you’d hoped to go to bed early to make up for the lost sleep from the night before, but there was more laundry to be folded (again)….
You feel like you just want someone to hold you by the shoulders, look you in the eye and tell you,
“I am proud of the work you’re doing. You are sacrificing so much for your family. YOU are a GREAT mom.”
Friend, you are not alone. Your job IS hard. You ARE giving up a lot of yourself to pour into your children. You’re doing it well, even if you feel like you’re not.
When we become mothers, we don’t just take on a new title, we take on an entirely different way of living; we learn to give of ourselves in ways that seem crazy. We sacrifice our time, our desires, and oftentimes our dreams for people who know only how to “take” from the moment they’re conceived.
While it may seem like your little people are out to get you sometimes, and that they care about no one but themselves, your daily work with them is purposeful. You are training them up to be the young men and women God intended them to be.
In your daily sacrifice, you are teaching your children to serve one another in love (Galatians 5:13). As you make those PBJs and clean up the crumbs on the floor, you are demonstrating loving service to your children.
When you break up that fight and instruct your kids to apologize for wrong actions and attitudes, you are teaching them to identify and “confess your (their) sins to one another” (James 5:16), just as they would with God.
As you hug and kiss your children at bedtime and read them that book “just once more” even after another day of difficult behavior, you are demonstrating GRACE; that undeserved, loving kindness that God gives us in spite of ourselves. (Romans 5:7-8)
When you cry those tears by yourself, thinking you’ve screwed everything up and you beg God for help, you are demonstrating your authentic need for the One who can save. Your children will know who to turn to in heartache because you called His name (Romans 10:13).
Beloved sister, He is El Roi, the God who Sees. (Genesis 16:13-14) He sees you and He loves you and cares that you feel lonely.
“Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest!” (Matthew 11:28)
Lean into Him in your mothering journey; He’s got your back. You’re not just wiping noses and cleaning floors. Your job has eternal rewards.
You’re doing great.